We all know that opening with “Hey can I buy you a drink?” is a really bad move on so many levels: It turns you into just another open wallet looking to get in her pants, you’re instantly transformed into a guy who has to pay for attention from women, and it’s also not that creative, original or interesting. Which is exactly how she’ll see you.

It’s why so many guys end up going home alone, and with a lot less money.

Yet, a recent survey by New Amsterdam Spirits found that 67% of women think it’s “smooth” when a man buys them a drink. Well of course they do. Who doesn’t love free drinks? I bet if they surveyed men and asked if we’d like women to buy us a drink, the result would be 97%. And the other 3% would be lying.

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It’s time for you to step up your game! Women are getting more adventurous in the sack, at least according to a new study out of the UK. Of course this is good information to have if you’re traveling and are searching for adults contacts in the UK but it’s safe to say this will apply in most settings. With the proliferation of adult dating sites on the web, social media and adult videos online, women have so many more ways to become stimulated and open themselves up to new ideas. Also, books like “Fifty Shades of Grey” have been huge hits, sparking even more imagination on the part of women. The result is more experimentation and also greater expectations! The recent UK study revealed that women are open to more types of sex, but were having less sex, probably due to being too busy.

Without adding too much pressure, are you ready to handle that? Confidence in bed is critical, but some men put way too much pressure on themselves, and then that leads to other problems. The key here is always having an element of playfulness. This is supposed to be fun, and women love when you tease them. Have fun with all this, and nudge your partner to try different things.

Also, particularly when you’re with someone new, another key is paying attention to how she responds to everything you’re doing. She’ll give you plenty of signals, even if she doesn’t spell it out for you. That’s one of the biggest mistake men make – not paying attention! Remember, every woman is different, and things that worked in the past may not go over as well with someone new.

So if you’re playful and also paying attention to the responses you’re getting, particularly non-verbal responses, you’re going to find things that give her real pleasure. Once that is established, it will be even easier for her to open up and even tell you things she wants. Then you’re on your way to an intensely enjoyable experience – for both of you!

With the holidays coming up, we’re entering into prime dating season as women hate the idea of being alone this time of year. Take advantage of that and take this opportunity to get back on the dating sites, or if you’re already there to start making a more concerted effort.

When you consider dating sites, there are a host of factors to consider, and for many men and women price can be an important factor. But one factor men need to consider is what you’re looking for. Be honest with yourself. Are you looking for a relationship or are you looking for a one night stand? Or is it both? This is important as the dating sites have become much more specialized and cater to different needs and desires.

There are pure “dating” sites and then you have your “hookup sites.” Now, of course you can meet women on dating sites and end up with a one-night stand. That can happen often, but your game better be good to pull that off, or you have to hope you’re truly lucky. Also, you might be creating problems with that, as the blowback might be serious the next day. So keep that in mind when you’re on the dating sites. You can tell just by reading the bios, where women are looking for their soul mates and partners for life. This is serious business for many of them. Still, if you’re happy to go on a lot of dates and you’re good at assessing the situation, you can have a lot of fun as well.

It’s much more efficient, however, on the hookup, adult and affair sites. You’ll need to do some serious screening here, but there are real women out there on these sites looking to have a good time. If casual is your thing, it’s always nice to meet women who are looking for the same thing, regardless of the reason behind it. These sites can also be fun with chat and other features.

Online dating has come a long way, as it’s now a normal and obvious way to meet new people. Browse any of the profiles on this list of the best dating sites and you’ll see all sorts of women posting profiles and looking to meet men.

Of course, men and women are often looking for different things, and you’ll find many more women you’re probably interested in on those sites that focus on relationships over hookups. That’s not to say that there aren’t tons of available women on the hookup sites. It’s just that many women want to think of themselves as looking for a relationship, even if they’re open to a hookup.

So when you’re on the various dating sites, keep in mind what you’re looking for, and also be cognizant of what the women on the site are looking for. You can be much more direct on the hookup sites, but fun and playful flirting can get you a long way on all of the dating sites.

One thing to consider is volume. Many dating “experts” have noted that you have to be willing to meet a wide variety of people to find what you’re looking for. That’s particularly true with men or women looking for a long-term relationship. Also, sheer volume makes it easier if you’re looking for or open to hookups. The pickup artists will tell you that it’s important when you’re meeting women not to get too wrapped up in any one person. Don’t fall into the trap of projecting what you’re looking for on a woman you find attractive. That kind of tunnel vision won’t help you find a relationship that lasts and it will certainly limit your dating and hookup options.

So you should be open to using a wide variety of online dating sites so you’ll have that many more options regarding the women you’ll be able to meet. Go with the best sites, and then try the free dating sites as well. If you’re willing to put some time and thought into it, then you’ll just increase your chances, regardless of what you’re looking for.