How to Flirt in a Messenger

There’s nothing better than live communication with a woman you’re interested in. Thanks to modern technologies, the very concept of communication between men and women has changed dramatically with all kinds of easy tools like texting, video chat, etc. For many of us, this makes communicating with women that much easier. Texts and messaging ease the pressure of a phone call. It’s also simpler. You downloaded the messenger, press a few keys and everything is ready to go.

Still, there are some nuances to this type of communication that guys need to keep in mind. Check out some of the rules below for some guidance on how to communicate with her. You can also practice your skills on Eastern European girls on Yes Dates to master texting and messaging for good!

Flirt in a Messenger: The Basic Rules

Of course, these aren’t holy commandments but rather things to keep in mind. It also can depend who you are talking with.

1. Start the conversation naturally. Starting a conversation is the most difficult. At the first stage, your task is to overcome embarrassment and involve a person in a conversation. It is best to immediately find the reason for the conversation. For example, mention that you like her updated photo. If a a girl is interested in communicating with you, she will be happy to continue the conversation, but do not use very overly suggestive language.

2. Do not get carried away with greetings. Get past the greeting quickly and start a real conversation. If you feel that the conversation had a good start, go to the standard questions about work, study and everyday things.

3. Avoid monosyllabic answers. We mean those that can only be answered with “yes” or “no.” Construct the phrase differently. For example: “I saw you reposted this link. This is really an interesting topic. What attracted you to it?” Otherwise, you risk receiving the same monosyllabic answers. She’ll quickly get bored.

4. Do not complain about your problems. Do not tell a new friend about all your life’s troubles and difficulties – it will turn her off. On the contrary, show her that you are an interesting and energetic person. People do not like to listen to other people’s misfortunes because everyone has enough of them. You communicate in order to be distracted from everyday life and get pleasant emotions.

5. More joking. Nobody expects an incredible stand-up routine from you, but a little humor goes a long way. If you had a bad day, the best thing is to talk about it in a joking tone. That said, stay away from vulgar jokes. Remember that on the other side of the screen is someone you do not know. You can easily offend her with an inappropriate joke, and then, communication will cease before it ever really begins.

6. Use stickers. After you overcome the embarrassment, you can integrate stickers and emoticons into the conversation – this will give the conversation liveliness and variety. The main thing is not to overdo it. Almost all modern messengers have such a variety of stickers that you can express almost every emotion.

7. Finish the conversation first. Nothing is more intriguing than an unexpectedly interrupted conversation. Do this politely and she’ll be left wanting for more. You will achieve two goals at once: avoid embarrassment if the conversation slowly fades away and create some intrigue.

Final Note

Flirting by correspondence should be treated as a fun exercise, but be aware that it won’t always work. In this case, just gently curtail the conversation; if a person does not want to talk to you, do not impose yourself. In any case, there is always a chance that she was in a bad mood or just tired. You can always try again when you have something interesting or fun to say.


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The Science of Flirting: What You Need to Know


In terms of dating, flirting is what happens between two people from the moment you meet until you first have sex. And if you want to bring that intimate moment a little closer, you should master the art of flirting.

For most guys, the hardest part is to approach a woman and strike up a conversation with her, and this is where flirting can save the situation.

Basically, there are six reasons for flirting:

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Demystify Your Dream Woman

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There are women. Then there are “dream women.”

It’s easy enough to snag the former with a cool approach even if you don’t have a lot invested your flirting bank of knowledge. She’s hot. She’s fun. You’re not tongue tied around her. If the flirtation leads nowhere, there’s always someone else to chat up.

Confidence with this kind of woman will get you pretty far – your indifference releases her anxieties and allows you to project a sense of cool.
The second kind of woman – the “dream woman” – presents a greater challenge. She’s self-composed, beautiful and elusive. She stops you in your tracks. She turns your normally savvy barstool eloquence into drivel. She haunts your thoughts. You spend hours overanalyzing every interaction, every stutter you stammered and every sideways glance she shot your way.

It’s possible to spend an entire lifetime hanging out with women of the first variety. They provide ease, fun, and confidence. Feel free to ignore your attraction to the woman of your dreams. Stifle it with a steady diet of party girls and quick flings and relationships that never quite catch.

But you’re not the kind of guy to leave what you want on the table.

Man-up, grow a pair, and land that lady already.

How Can I Get Her?

Focus on her imperfections. She does have some. Take note. Instead of focusing on all the impossibly perfect and alluring qualities that seduce you into a cold sweat—the Bardot hair, the Meghan Fox mouth, the Marion Ravenwood moxy–find the parts of her personality that don’t shine. Dig up the flaws. Find the things that make her human.

Maybe she has a charming facial tic or overuses the word “substantial” too often. Maybe she curses like a sailor, or wears unattractive printed pants. Any time you start to place her up on an unobtainable pedestal, laser in on those imperfections. Reminding yourself of her flaws helps keep her real and approachable.

Change Your Cognitive Thoughts

Cognitive science is the science of how humans think. If your woman is as superb as you think, she’s probably used to other dudes falling all over themselves around her.

View her as an equal. By making her approachable in your mind, you’ll fine tune your approach. She’ll appreciate the levelheadedness and honesty that you offer by considering her a peer rather than a princess.

What About A Date?

So your steady hand gets you in the door for a date. Now is not the time to apply the same sloppy methods you use on your normal dates. Play the long game with this one. Keep things cool and casual. Build rapport. Find a suitable credit card for an extra line of credit to afford a memorable first date. You don’t need to find a string quartet, a midnight flight to Paris or a blank check to Tiffany’s – trying too hard mashes the brakes on your pursuit quickly.

Instead, take her out to do something you have genuine passion about using your new credit card. Passion and enthusiasm play sexy to this kind of woman. While an opulent first date might flatter her ego, allowing her to see the things you value is much more attractive. If you’re a sports fan, take her to a ballgame. If you love old movies take her to see a Kurosawa film. While she might not trashtalk the pitcher, or love movies with subtitles, allow your enthusiasm for whatever to carry the date. Educate her about your passion. If it turns out you have the same things in common: perfect. If not: it’s okay. Women love men who are interested in life.

Show her your interest, then ask her to share hers on your next date. Enjoy what she shows you, be it something amazing like an architecture exhibition, disappointing like a Justin Bieber concert, or boring like financial planning. Take the opportunity to learn about her.

I Got Her!

By building this rapport you will have demystified your dream girl. Soon enough you’ll be sharing bedhead and scrambled eggs on the weekends instead of tension filled chats at the bar. Even dream women aren’t mysterious or unobtainable, you just have to be willing to wake up.