How’s your “rap” with women? Is it easy talking to women, or do you often find it challenging to keep their interest in a conversation?

This is a pretty common problem, as many men fall into the same pattern of “interviewing” a woman with boring questions that she’s heard a million times. Making small talk or asking her “what do you do?” will get you nowhere. You want to get her attention and be interesting.

Dan Bacon addresses the common mistakes men make in his article about how to talk to women along with some helpful suggestions on how to keep the conversation going.

One of the techniques that I now use to keep conversations going and keep them interesting is technique that I call Talk From Your Own Perspective. This is where you offer some conversation from your personal perspective and then ask the woman a question on the same topic to bring her into the conversation. This works SO MUCH better than just asking a woman questions and not offering any personal opinions to the conversation yourself.

For example: Instead of asking her, “Do you like the beach?” you would first talk from your perspective by saying, “I love the beach…I’ve managed to get there twice this summer with some friends…ate too much ice-cream the last time I went! How about you, did you get to the beach much this summer?”

Also, learn how to tell good stories! Have something to say about things that happened to you and that will naturally lead to great conversations, and as Dan points out it’s much easier to get her talking when you’ve brought up your own personal experiences.

Check out the entire article and right away you’ll probably recognize the mistakes you’ve been making and you’ll start learning helpful tips on how to improve your rap with women.