How’s your “rap” with women? Is it easy talking to women, or do you often find it challenging to keep their interest in a conversation?
This is a pretty common problem, as many men fall into the same pattern of “interviewing” a woman with boring questions that she’s heard a million times. Making small talk or asking her “what do you do?” will get you nowhere. You want to get her attention and be interesting.
Dan Bacon addresses the common mistakes men make in his article about how to talk to women along with some helpful suggestions on how to keep the conversation going.
One of the techniques that I now use to keep conversations going and keep them interesting is technique that I call Talk From Your Own Perspective. This is where you offer some conversation from your personal perspective and then ask the woman a question on the same topic to bring her into the conversation. This works SO MUCH better than just asking a woman questions and not offering any personal opinions to the conversation yourself.
For example: Instead of asking her, “Do you like the beach?” you would first talk from your perspective by saying, “I love the beach…I’ve managed to get there twice this summer with some friends…ate too much ice-cream the last time I went! How about you, did you get to the beach much this summer?”
Also, learn how to tell good stories! Have something to say about things that happened to you and that will naturally lead to great conversations, and as Dan points out it’s much easier to get her talking when you’ve brought up your own personal experiences.
Check out the entire article and right away you’ll probably recognize the mistakes you’ve been making and you’ll start learning helpful tips on how to improve your rap with women.
Guys love cars and we also love beautiful women as well, so the combination is one that we always enjoy. Here we have a cool gallery supplied by our friends at Russian Brides who took some shots of actual Russian women who have been on their dating site.
The world has come a long way from the old mail order bride sites. Now these services are just like the traditional dating sites that we’ve all started using. This has taken quite a bit of the stigma away from the whole process and it’s also so much more effective, as now you can meet them online in real time and interact with them in so many ways, including email, chat, Skype etc.
Check out the slideshow above and you’ll see the quality of the women on this site, and then head over to Russian Brides and browse all of the real women that you can meet. Again, this isn’t just a marriage site. If you’re looking for that you can definitely find it, but many of them are open to dating as well.
Be honest with yourself. Does this apply to you? It applies to most men, so there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Frankly, just acknowledging this can be a great first step towards improving your dating skills with women, whether you’re a bumbling novice or someone who is generally successful with women but wants to get better.
Forbes recently brought up a similar question in the contest of Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thornton. This went more into the relationship dynamics, as Thornton feels like he screwed up the marriage and said, “I blew it because I didn’t think I was good enough for her.” She’s particularly intimidating for a host of reasons, but it raises the narrower issue of how to attract and date beautiful women.
Most pick-up artists have great advice in this area, and the basic idea is that you can’t act like all the other guys who fawn over them or try to win them over with money or status (if that’s even an option). The key is to stand out by acting differently, and it all goes back to your own attitude and confidence.
You can start thinking about this issue with two articles from David DeAngelo. The first explains his basic “cocky and funny” strategy, and the next one specifically addresses the secrets of dating beautiful women. The idea is similar to the idea of negs from Mystery and Style. Playfully teasing a beautiful women and not fawning over her will completely change the dynamic.
One of the keys to improving your dating skills by reading the pick-up artists is simply to avoid the common mistakes you and other guys have been making for years. The light bulb will go up immediately, as you see that your natural impulses are often wrong when trying to attract women, unless you’re a natural of course . . .
Check out our dating tips page for more tips from the best pickup artists.
Grooming habits have been evolving for both men and women, and it’s definitely something we all keep in mind now when it comes to dating and relationships. Any guy whose been dating since the 80s or 90s knows that many women today will eliminate every hair from their bodies. While they don’t expect quite he same for guys, the idea of manscaping is something every guy at least needs to think about. You should at least start by considering that back hair if that’s an issue for you . . .
On a less private matter, facial hair is making a comeback in some circles, as it’s been mostly out of fashion for years. In this area opinions vary wildly as you might expect.
All of this is covered in a new film called “Mansome” from Morgan Spurlock, with appearances by Jason Bateman, Will Arnett, Adam Carolla, Judd Apatow, Zach Galifianakis along with others. From metrosexuals to more extreme cases, Spurlock takes a humorous look at the subject.
If you’re looking to improve your game with women, you should definitely consider your appearance and grooming habits. You don’t have to do anything radical, but paying attention to it can help you with your confidence and improve your chances. Find a look that works for you, and subtle changes can go a long way.
Here’s a funny take on a well-known truth – beer goggles help the world go around! Of course most guys can learn a thing or two about upping their game, and our dating tips for men are a great place to start. But we all know that beer and booze helps move things along, and a hottie with beer goggles makes hookups easier all the time . . .