Dating is a fun time in anyone’s life. Learning about your new mate can be the most exciting time, from the things that make her tick all the way to the things that make her sick.
Entering a new relationship, you really aren’t sure what to expect. You can hope that you are able to fulfill all of her dreams and that you click on the same level. In a perfect world the things you do to make her smile and show how interested you are would fall in line with her needs and desires. Unfortunately, we don’t live in a perfect world.
Often you will have to step outside of your comfort zone in order to show her affection. This isn’t all bad, as being uncomfortable will in the end help you to grow. Even if this new mate is not the one that stays forever, it is possible that she will help you on your journey to finding the one who is meant to be.
I recently sat down with a group of women and asked them what it was that made them feel wanted and appreciated. I am interested in understanding the similarities we all share, as well as where we differ. I received some good insight, along with some ideas that were out of reach for the average person.
So what were the ideas you ask? First they went as big as they could. A new car was on the list of one one woman, and of course the others agreed. But that wasn’t really what I was looking for. I asked them to think on a much smaller scale. While the cliche answer of “flowers” was in there, that is a given. Every woman needs flowers from time to time. This is the number 1 way people give and feel affection.
Next on the list of one of the women was a cute text or email. Not the average text of “I am thinking about you.” Women want to feel special. A text that points out the things that are unique. Maybe more like “I really like your crooked smile”. This will tell your love that you acknowledge the small things about her and she will love that you are looking at her individual characteristics, not the big picture.
Another thought was to take the time to go shopping. This serves as a double purpose. Quality time is essential for any relationship to grow. But by joining her on a shopping extravaganza you will find out the types of things she would pick out for herself and use that the next time you want to surprise her with a gift.
A romantic night out topped the list of many of the women. Choosing a place and making it sporadic. Women tend to like to be surprised. No matter how often you hear her say she hates surprises, she really does, so long as it is a good one and includes the things she likes. Taking her to your favorite restaurant will annoy her, so make sure you put some thought into it before making a rash decision.
A final thought was as simple as it gets. Not a woman in the group disagreed with this one. Help her around the house or yard. When she is working on her garden, pick up a hoe and help her out. Don’t be afraid to get dirty or if you are not sure of what to do, offering a helping hand is enough. Showing an interest in the things she loves (even if you don’t) will show her that you are ready to learn anything she is willing to teach you.
If you are looking to surprise the lovely lady in your life and you are unsure of what to do. You can never go wrong with any gift. So long as it is pretty, sweet or it tastes good. A card that expresses emotions you are unable to put into your own words, chocolates and of course flowers always melt a woman’s heart. FloristExpress.com has some gift ideas for even the trickiest of women.